Surprise!

The word surprise comes to mind when Blogs ng Pinoy questioned my being a Pinoy.  The blog that I chose to share with friends and readers is General Knowledge.  It is a common denominator that such title would tackle any subjects under the sun.  However, I give more emphasis on management particularly on business and education.  For reasons, I completed my MBA and PhD in Educational Management.  Albeit I am a Pinoy,  majority of my discussions would be in English.  But I will try to inject some pinoy  blogs/articles  so as I will not be suspected as an alien of my own country.

I am a real Pinoy by heart for I was born in the whimsical beach atmosphere in La Union.  In short a native of Ilocandia.  But in reality , I am not for I was just raised up in such place.  My father hails from Panglao, Bohol and my mother, a bicolana from Polangui, Albay.  What a love affair, isn’t it?  The question, how they were able to communicate.  We should be thankful that we have our national language which is Pilipino, if not we will face difficulty in understanding one another. 

My parents (May their souls rest in peace) migrated in La Union for my father had several fishing boats.  Not only fishing but also salvaging of big ships ruined  during the war.  These income earning activities were not forever .  Natural disaster  like typhoon seemingly devastated the workflow of my father and his workers.  Thus transferring to a place, far from the sea  where he can have a real  peace of mind.

 

Four Brothers Vulcanizing Shop was born where all my four brothers learned to vulcanize at a very young age.  Lucky me, I tried my best  to improve myself by completing my high school education.  Though my school was a public school with minimal tuition fees, still I faced difficulty in paying them.  My mother (may her soul  rest in peace) was always there to assist and guide me.  I love you Nanay  with all my heart.  Really, I miss you so much.  Sorry for I was not able to give you the comfort of life when you were still alive together with Tatay.

Yes, my mother  was a hardworking mom.  Being a dressmaker, she rushes every dress she received so that we have something to eat.  At times doing the vulcanizing task when my younger brothers can’t be awaken during the early morning time.  She is really one of a kind.  Loving, kind and dedicated mother to all my siblings.  She passed away when I was in the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia, wishing and waiting that I will be at her side. I was there, and she was gone, my mother whom I cared and loved so much. 

For all my achievements in life, I dedicate them all to my parents for they gave me life and hopes to succeed. 

 

I hope such revelation would expunge the idea that I am not a stranger but rather  a Real Pinoy.

CORPORAL PUNISHMENT

There is evidence that punitive parents produce more aggressive children than less punitive parents. Therefore, should all parents give up punishments as a method of discipline for their children. Why?

There is evidence that punitive parents produce more aggressive children than less punitive parents.  However, that doesn’t mean parents should give up punishments as a method of discipline for their children but rather parents should look into what type of punishment or effective discipline method is needed in order to guide and teach their children.

Good guidance and discipline are not always easy for most parents. Sometimes parents don’t know what is best to do.  Discipline is a way to correct and to teach children. It needs to make sense to them. It must help them feel good about themselves. It needs to give them a chance to correct their mistakes.  Guidance is not punishment. Punishment only tells children that they are bad. For instance, spanking our children doesn’t teach them what they should do. It may teach them that it is all right to hit people. We need to have a few simple rules, making sure that our children understand them, and stick to them. We need to explain to them what will happen or what will be the consequences if they break a rule.

The purpose of punishment is to stop a child from doing what you don't want - and using a painful or unpleasant method to stop him.

There are basically four kinds of punishment: 1) physical punishment - slapping, spanking, switching, paddling, and using a belt or hair brush;  2) verbal punishment - shaming, ridiculing, using cruel words, saying "I don't love you."; 3) withholding rewards - "You can't watch TV if you don't do your homework."; and 4) penalties - "You broke the window so you will have to pay for it with money from your allowance."

The first two kinds of punishment, physical and verbal, are not considered to be effective discipline methods. The other two, withholding rewards and giving penalties, can be used either as effective discipline methods or as punishment - depending on how parents administer them.

Why Physical Punishment Doesn't Work

Physical punishment usually doesn't work for several reasons. First, it makes the child hate himself and others. Physical punishment makes the child think that there must be something awfully wrong with him to be treated so badly. If children think they are "bad," then they will act "bad." A vicious cycle is formed. The child who has been treated harshly has no reason to be good. Or he may be good just to keep from being punished and not learn to be good because he thinks it is the right thing to do.

Parents who use physical punishment are setting an example of using violence to settle problems or solve conflicts, Children imitate their parents' behavior. When parents use physical punishment, children are more likely to use violent acts to settle their conflicts with others.

Using Consequences as a Form of Discipline

Letting children experience the consequences of their decisions is an "unperturbed" way to discipline young people. Children learn from their experiences, just like adults. We call it learning the "hard way." The child learns that every act has a consequence for which he is responsible. Parents can declare that the consequence of not coming to the dinner table in time to eat is that the child does not eat his dinner that evening. Hunger is a natural consequence of not eating. If the child complains, mother can say, "I'm sorry you feel hungry now. It's too bad, but you'll have to wait for breakfast." The child who experiences the unpleasant consequences of his behavior will be less likely to act that way again.

CONCLUSION

It is therefore concluded that although there is evidence that punitive parents produce more aggressive children than less punitive parents, all parents should not give up punishments for their children but rather select the best effective discipline methods or as punishment in teaching children how they should behave.  The guidance that works best is fair, should be consistent, sensitive, and last but not the least loving.